What to do???
I have discovered that the writer of the letter to my neighbours, telling them about what I do, is not in fact another neighbour, but a distant trouble maker who makes a habit of making trouble in this way for working girls. I had a call from a lady who had recognised the format of the letter from an experience she witnessed a while ago. One of the other top girls on our website also had disturbing revealing letters sent to the family of her boyfriend a few months ago. She never found out who sent them but is still working ... and so am I - sod 'em!
It did, however, create some problems between my partner and I. He now feels very uncomfortable visiting me here in my house, wondering what the neighbours think of him now that some of them know what I do. He also wonders what I might be keeping from him, and he has started to mistrust me a great deal... To the extent that he read this blog!
Needless to say it disturbed him, and I am regretful that he felt the need to read it, and that he read the version of events that I present in my blog in a way that I think might be interesting and a bit tittilating for strangers to read.
The thing is, he didn't tell me that he had read it until about a day after, and in the meantime carried on as normal, being affectionate and loving. It all ended in tears though, as it came out at the end of a boozy night in the pub.
So I guess my job is causing more problems than I had initially thought, and I really need to address it if my marriage is to survive. I offered to give up working straight away, but he believes that I would subsequently resent him for the loss of earnings and lack of multiple sex partners. I disagree, but if that is what he believes, then it is bound to cause a problem by expectation. And if I tell him it's not true, he wouldn't believe me at the moment.
Oh my gosh, I really do fear for my relationship, and it really IS more important than my job. But I am not ready to sacrifice my financial future security, especially when he thinks that it would be a mistake anyway.
What to do? What to do?
It did, however, create some problems between my partner and I. He now feels very uncomfortable visiting me here in my house, wondering what the neighbours think of him now that some of them know what I do. He also wonders what I might be keeping from him, and he has started to mistrust me a great deal... To the extent that he read this blog!
Needless to say it disturbed him, and I am regretful that he felt the need to read it, and that he read the version of events that I present in my blog in a way that I think might be interesting and a bit tittilating for strangers to read.
The thing is, he didn't tell me that he had read it until about a day after, and in the meantime carried on as normal, being affectionate and loving. It all ended in tears though, as it came out at the end of a boozy night in the pub.
So I guess my job is causing more problems than I had initially thought, and I really need to address it if my marriage is to survive. I offered to give up working straight away, but he believes that I would subsequently resent him for the loss of earnings and lack of multiple sex partners. I disagree, but if that is what he believes, then it is bound to cause a problem by expectation. And if I tell him it's not true, he wouldn't believe me at the moment.
Oh my gosh, I really do fear for my relationship, and it really IS more important than my job. But I am not ready to sacrifice my financial future security, especially when he thinks that it would be a mistake anyway.
What to do? What to do?
posted by Sally at 9:01 pm
1 Comments:
If your boyfriend is worth having he will stick by you. If he decides he can't handle it, or you, and leaves then he's the loser, not you. You think some people look down their noses at you? I'm in Chinese food, love, and am probably sneered at a lot more than you are. But let them do that, I don't care. If people don't like what I do, sod them, they're not worth worrying about. I love your blog. Good luck with it and your man.
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